Why do I worry so much?



It's actually in our nature to worry about things that are important to us.  We want to know how things will turn out and think worrying about it will somehow give us the answer.  Where we get into trouble is when we let that uncertainty take over our thoughts and lives.  In reality, 95% of what causes us woe never comes to fruition.  Worry is almost always future based and just a series of thoughts that run rampant in our heads.  We really have no direct control over the things we are obsessing about.  You do however, have control over your thoughts. When you hear yourself continually engaged in a conversation about what may or may not happen say something like, " I change what I can and accept what I cannot" or in the words of  Scarlett O'Hara,  "I can't think about that today. I'll worry about that tomorrow."  You can't predict or control the future so thinking about what could go wrong in it is just a waste of your time. Putting it off until tomorrow has you delaying it - the worry that is - indefinitely!  It's more productive to focus on what you do have control over rather than the doubt and fear that swirls around in your head. Get into action instead of your head to overcome what concerns you most. 

Cheers and love! Kim

How do I get my family to eat healthy now that school is back in session?

Meal time can be disastrous for busy and working families. Have the whole family get involved in meal planning, prep, and shopping. I wish I had these tips when my daughter was young and would only eat foods that were white. Instead of freaking out, I could have encouraged her to join me.

  • Forgive yourself for grabbing fast food occasionally. It happens.

  • Avoid packaged foods and sugar as much as possible. Make small changes where you can.

  • Provide ready to pack snacks like nuts and nut butters, fruit and cut vegetables, sugar-free protein and veggie bars.

  • One night a week, cook or do lunch prep together. Let kids be responsible for planning or making one meal a week. Let them pack their own lunches. 

  • Have a theme night once a month. Have breakfast for dinner. Eat dessert first as a monthly treat. I still do these things with my girls even know they are out of the house.

Do I do all of these things well? Of course not. It’s the commitment of love you make to your family every day that counts the most! Take on one thing from the list this month and work together to make it happen. Let me know how it goes.

I have your back…pack.
Kim

 

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How do I find the time to relax and be mindful with a busy schedule?

The human brain is wired to have anywhere from 25,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day and 70% of them are believed to be negative and I'd venture to say more than half of our thoughts we aren't even aware of.  Add in busy schedule, planning, scheduling, cancellations, and remembering and no wonder we are always so exhausted.  
I hear so many people say, I'm not very good at meditation or I don't have the time.  You don't have to be "good at" meditation and just five minutes a day can change your life. It's a practice and with practice comes results. You just need to do it. Meditation is the one thing I do no matter what every day.  Miss it and I feel the difference. 
If you know how to breathe, you know how to be mindful. By taking a few minutes a day to shift the focus off a few hundred of those thoughts to focusing on your breathe, you reduce stress, increase happiness and acceptance, slow down aging and improve overall concentration and quality of life. The time you will get back in peace of mind will feel like a whole day openend in your schedule.  Now do you have time?

Namaste,
Kim